Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety Review
“Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety” is a book written by Erika Bukkfalvi Hilliard, a private practitioner with over 30 years experience in the field of mental health. As the title suggests, the book deals with shyness and social anxiety and attempts to teach people how to overcome these issues in order to live a full life.
Shyness is considered a common trait nowadays, as people tend to feel like they need to be or act in a certain way to be socially accepted, and that behaviour usually conflicts with the way they would wish to behave. This feeling of not belonging can lead to anxiety and often cause individuals to experience negative consequences.
People appreciate the company of those similar to themselves, but shun away people they perceive as different, leading those with shyness and social anxiety to be have a feeling of being “cast out,” which can interfere with their job performance, interactions with friends and families and, in extreme cases, can lead to serious mental conditions. “Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety” attempts to deal with these issues, explaining the reasons behind the feeling of anxiety and aiding people to set aside these feelings in order to lead a happy, fulfilled life.
Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety Ingredients
“Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety” attempts to help its readers in two ways: first it explains the reasons for which social anxiety occurs and some of the dimensions it can take; then it tries teaching people how to deal with the issues of shyness and how to prevent social anxiety from kicking in.
The author puts in a lot of effort of making the reader feel at ease, explaining how natural the feeling of shyness is and trying to provide some comfort by presenting the reasons for which shyness can easily lead to anxiety in today’s society, where social pressure pushes people to stop being themselves; when someone has difficulty adapting to the requirements of society, anxiety might kick in, leading to vicious cycle of rejection and loss of self-worth.
Erika Hilliard tries reassuring the readers, explaining the physics that trigger the feeling of anxiety, and then provides them with useful tools to prevent anxiety from kicking in. She gives hints on how to calm your body, blushing, how to engage in eye contact, managing and adapting your body language, dealing with shy bladder syndrome, cultivating positive thoughts, and ways to prepare for stressful social situations. “Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety” also includes information on some forms of medication that one can resort to if they find that social anxiety is interfering with their daily life in disturbing amounts.
- Large amount of reviews stating that “Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety” is well-written and provided useful tools of dealing with social anxiety;
- Can be a useful first step in improving your life if you find your shyness impairing;
- Inexpensive book: approximately $11 for a copy;
- Author has experience in dealing with mental health patients.
- Tips and instructions presented in the book may not apply to all individuals;
- Might only provide temporary relief from anxiety, as behavioural changes are sometimes only temporary.
What should be kept in mind is that self-help books, no matter how well-written, cannot provide people with “tools to success.” Shyness and anxiety are two very personal feelings and states of mind; they are triggered and manifest themselves differently in different people. Guides on how to deal with these feelings might prove useful for some, pointless for others, but should only be seen as general guidelines by both groups.
While very useful in the way that it explains anxiety, what causes it and how it can affect people, the “how to” sections of “Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety” should be interpreted as tips and ideas in improving the way you deal with shyness, as there is no guarantee that they will improve your life in the way the author would have you think.
If you are experiencing large amounts of anxiety that prevent you from leading a normal life, you should consider consulting a psychiatrist, as they can provide you with medical aid to help improve the quality of your life.
10yrs or More
|HCF Quality (4.8)||(4.8)|
|Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety (3.5)||(3.5)||N/A|
|Nature's Youth Memory Defense (3.5)||(3.5)|
|Neuro Load (3.4)||(3.4)|
|Cerebral Success (3.1)||(3.1)|